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[zach]

Hey all, I do not have my own name, so I am asking this in Zach's name.  I apologize for the confusion if anyone had any.

Okay, my wife and I pretty much have a domestic discipline type relationship.  The question that I have for basically anyone one that would like to respond to is this:

Sunday was a big football day.  Vikings vs Cowboys.  My wife asked me if I would be home when she got home.  I said yes, I should be home by 4:00.  I came home about 5:25 because it took a little longer to celebrate the awesome victory.  My wife thinks that I should be in trouble for this.  Now, the fact that I said I should be, to me, does not necessarily mean that I will be.  Other facts......she knew right where I was and also has my friend's cell phone number.  I am currious on your thoughts.

Thank you,

Shawn

[dilligaf]

Well Shawn, my first suggestion is to regisiter as Shawn 

If you are in a DD type relationship, then its safe to assume you have rules and understandings...expectations.  Youre aware of these, so to use a play on words is just an avoidance technique.  Congratulations on the victory and all but you had a responsibility to let your wife know that things had changed, and that you werent going to make it by 4.  It requires a quick call.  The fact that you didnt show up until an hour and a half later shows a distinct lack of responsibility to communicate, especially when she specifically asked for a time frame, to say nothing of its being inconsiderate.

Based on the little that youve explained here, I  feel the expectation and responsibility here lies in your hands.  If there was a change of plans the thing to do would have been to let her know, one so she wouldnt worry, two so if she had other plans she could adjust accordingly, three if she was planning dinner at a certain time again she could adjust accordingly...there are any number of reasons. 

I get that she could reach you, and knew where you were, but that doesnt take the responsibility off your shoulders.

Know that this is only my uninformed opinion, and that there are no judgements here.
Good luck, and if you dont mind Id be curious to know what the outcome was.
dilli

[Leo]

i agree compete it is only consideration if nothing else to let Her know that things were different saves worrying and all sorts of things

just because she could contact you doesnt absolve you of esponsability
you state your friend had a cell phone so you could have used it and let her know

even in a vanilla relationship that i something i would expect so i agree you should  be in trouble

[zach]

I should get my own nick on here.  Okay, I did get in trouble.  Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that I left a candle burning when I left to.  So yeah, my butt was burning as was the candle.  I do get your points on the communication thing.  Thanks for your replies.  Peace.